Does your job suck? Does (a part of) your life suck? Wanna learn how to break out?
I’ve written a FREE 12 STEP GUIDE to kickstart your dream life and start making money doing the things that you actually love (or at least, suck less).
You will learn to:
- Find out what sets your soul on fire
- Make practical, attainable steps to reach your goal
- Set up a healthy and productive routine
- Train your body & mind to become strong and fearless
- Kick your own butt and get what you want
In order to follow all of this through, you need ONE CRUCIAL SKILL. And that skill is the power to believe in yourself.
Believing in yourself is the most important skill you can have, for your private life as well as for your career.
Believing in yourself opens up a series of new doors that you might have been waiting for your whole life. Whether it’s a new relationship, a new job, a new hobby or a completely new perspective on life.
Do you suffer from low self-esteem? Do you recognize the following signals?
- You are afraid to show yourself as you are. You hide behind a mask.
- You continuously compare yourself with others.
- You have trouble standing up for yourself.
- You give up quickly.
- You are constantly thinking about the past or the future, instead of living in the ‘now’.
- You pay attention to every little detail of other people’s behavior that indicates to you that they don’t like you enough.
- You have trouble having fun.
- You set low goals.
If the above applies to you, then it’s time to start building believe in yourself. This is a goal that is perfectly achievable. You will get there if you are willing to work for it.
How do you start believing in yourself?
First of all, I recommend visiting a coach (if you feel like I can do something for you, let me know) or even a general practitioner if you feel that you can’t handle it yourself. It’s very healthy and normal to do. Every person has a (short or longer) period of low self-esteem.
Secondly, you can use my guide & the tips below to start on your own. Let’s see what these tips are.
1. Accept yourself
Accepting yourself as you are, is the first step to (re)build faith in yourself. This includes all of your physical funny bits, your weird nose (we all have a weird nose), your belly fat, your body as a whole. But also your personality traits.
A lot of this is only a matter of changing your perspective. Changing the way your mind works. It’s not an external job, it’s an internal job. Of course, you can work out and sweat off your belly fat – as you should. I believe that working out has a tremendous healing power.
But no matter how much you work out, or tighten that butt, the art of truly believing in yourself is still an inside job.
2. Avoid self-fulfilling prophecies
People with low self-esteem often have a wrong or negative interpretation of reality. They talk shit about themselves and are often caught in a negative self-fulfilling prophecy cycle.
Suppose you think your presentation at work will suck because you (think you) fucked up last time.
If you believe that, then yeah, chances are big that you’ll end up giving another horrible presentation.
You’ll unnecessarily make yourself nervous, and secondly, after your presentation, you will find evidence that your presentation sucked, again.
Meanwhile, your colleagues might think differently. They might think that you have extremely big balls to be able to stand there and give a presentation to a thousand people about such a difficult subject. They even admire you for it. And you? You only see the bad stuff. The few words you forgot, the sentence that didn’t come out right.
“The moment you believe it is the moment it comes true.”
3. Work on yourself
Self-development shouldn’t only take place when you’ve gone through a rough patch in your life. The most successful people are constantly working on themselves, even when they feel happy.
Every person has a goal that they want to achieve and have to work for. Whether that’s something physical like winning a competition, something material like making more money, or something spiritual, like believing in yourself.
If there are things you aren’t happy with or you’ve done things you’re not proud of, you can either ignore them or face them.
The goal of self-development is to be able to deal better with failures and mistakes. Because failure is inevitable. Mistakes are inevitable. Nobody is perfect, so you can’t expect that of yourself either.
Success comes from within. A large part of your future success must and will come from your own mindset.
It’s not that you achieve success because you never make a mistake. You achieve success because you know how to deal with setbacks and won’t give up.
12 Step Free Guide to Supercharge Your Life
Everything that I’m doing right now (writing, teaching surf & yoga, organizing retreats, living in Bali, traveling, working remotely as a freelancer), once seemed impossible to me.
In 5 years time, I’ve managed to drastically turn my life around so I’m now doing the things I love.
How? By taking it step by step. By breaking down my ultimate goal (a location-independent job near the surf) into smaller steps.
I went from a Project Coordinator at Reed Elsevier (an international publishing house) to Online Communications, Surf Instructor, Yoga Teacher, Health Coach, Retreat Leader and Writer / Digital Nomad.
First step of my plan to become a surf instructor five years ago? “Learn to swim properly”. I’m not shitting you. That was one of my steps. I’ve come a long way.
And so can you. Break down your dream life into little steps and you will get there.
To end with a cheesy, yet spot-on quote:
“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”
Let’s get those legs moving, shall we?
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Do you find it hard to keep believing in yourself? What are some of the things you do to stay motivated? Let me know in the comments below, I’d love to hear from you!
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